OK I got the PS button to turn on the box. I redid the initial setup and now it works
Still no go on the IR remote, however.
Don, one of the problems is that the PS button is not a direct on/off button. When the PS3 is off it turns it on but to turn it off you have to press the PS button, then press the enter button twice to "Select system to turn off" and then "Turn off System". The key is to getting a signal from the IR remote to work as the PS button. Once you do that you are basically home free.
Here is the sequence for turning off the PS3.
Press the PS Button once (Hold for count of two) = Enters off screen menu (This must be done from the Cross Bar Menu)
Press the Enter Button = Selection menu for "Turn Off System" or "Turn Off Controller" (This screen also tells you the battery level on the bluetooth device you are using)
Press the Enter Button = Selection menu for "Do You want to turn off the system" "Yes" or "No"
If all you do is press the PS Button once (Must be done from the Cross Media Bar) and then the Enter Button twice the defaults of the PS3 is "Turn Off System" and "Yes" and that will turn off your PS3.
The PS3 will then turn off. So, once you have the PS button working in IR all you have to do is program a macro with the above sequence to turn it off. This command has to be entered from then 'Cross Media Bar'. During movie playback the following sequence must be entered in order to get to the 'Cross Media Bar':
To get to the Cross Media Bar while playing a BD = Press ''O" button once the press 'Enter' button once. First action will open menu to ask of you want to stop playback. Second action will send you back to Cross Media Bar were you can then turn system off. Once again the default is to stop playback so you do not have to even see the menu.
To eject the BD = Press 'Triangle' then press 'down' twice from the scroll or toggle of your ir device then press 'Enter'. This will eject your BD.
I have the PS3 Bluetooth remote which I love using. I have never used any remote that worked this fast. And the battery life is very long in the remote. But my guess is that if you want to use your Home Theater remote, setting up three button macros for the above commands would pretty much take care of turning off and ejecting the BD remotely. I never turn on the PS3 for BD playback as the fastest way to get into playback is to just put the BD or DVD in the player. It will turn itself on and go immeadately into playback mode and start up your movie.
I hope this helps you -- Good Luck!
ps: I own a Harmony One remote and if I get an IR dongle it is already setup for the PS3. Perhaps if someone will tell which dongle works best I will try it out and then maybe I can help you further. Or better yet, if you know someone who has a Harmony One you can get them to download the PS3 commands into the Harmony One and then put your HT remote in the learning mode and use your friends remote to teach your remote the PS3 commands. This would be the simplest and easiest way to not only teach your remote but set up the macros to do want you want when using your PS3 as a BD player.