Installers do not like to put in correct grounds.
Not true. Hacks don't; real professional installers do. The problem is, as expenses and requirements have skyrocketed and rates have sunk to record lows, professional installers stopped doing residential installations. Oh and let's not forget companies now charging back installers $100 on $60 installs for failing QCs.
All 3 different installers said that if you ground the dish it will get hit by lightning and fry the system
I have only personally seen 3 systems struck by lightening. All 3 were properly grounded. 2 were fried from the lightening going through the phone lines. 1 still worked (no phone line) but had a slightly melted coax. Nothing will stop lightening, grounded or not. What IS important is to bleed static off the dish caused by the wind. Just like walking across the carpet, the dish is going to have static buildup on it if it's not drained off. On an all metal dish, this can be done through the shield of the coax, if it's grounded, either at a ground block or through the receivers power plug. Since we never know for sure if the power in a house is properly grounded, or will stay properly grounded , it's just safer to install a ground block and ground it to the house ground. Now on dishes where plastic separates the LNB from the rest of the dish, like the Dish500, then they should be attached or both grounded. Hence you'll see the separate ground wire that should be attached to the dish mast.
We can talk all day, in fact, between installers it's been hashed out for years, the reasoning behind the NEC requirements and reality. Trying to bring the two closer together is like trying to get George Soros to vote for Bush.
Yes, using a gound rod is a no no as it could be a a different level of ground than your house ground which is usually your water pipe unless you have a very new house and all plastic pipe, then a ground rod should have been put in by your electrician.
I don't know where you're from but here in MI every house is supposed to have a main ground rod, and 99% of the time, they do. In fact, I did a WildBlue install a couple weeks ago on a brand new house that DIDN'T have a ground rod! The ground wire from the transformer is supposed to go to a ground rod at the service entrance (meter), but this electrician didn't bother. Not only is it not to code, but somehow the inspector passed it! And you expect code inspectors to worry about satellite grounding? NOT!
Using a ground rod is not a no-no if it's the main house ground rod. Grounding to a separate, self-installed ground rod is a no-no unless it is connected to the main house ground rod with #6.