I know what you mean and many of these women feel ashamed when they meet other women and telling them what your husband is doing, i guess they think we are boys with toys and not grown up, and what is grown up actually? are we grown up when a woman tells us we are? it seems so in many cases.
Anyway i am so glad i live alone so i can do whatever i like, women seems to have many ideas of how men should behave and be.