Hate to bump an older thread, but Father's Day is this weekend and I might take the Blu-Ray plunge.
I too do not want a PS3. I have a teenage son and would like to retain control of my livingroom.
So,
What features to get? Any thing to avoid?
Just go to Best Buy and pick out the one that looks cool?
Probably the later. There are different answers depending on your price point, and what's important to you.
Things to consider: 3-D, online content (netflix, amazon on demand, etc), wireless vs wired ethernet, availability of component video outputs, need for audio codecs in player vs in receiver.
There are also some performance criteria. Biggest ones to me are turn on time and load time. These can vary widely, and in some players, it can take several minutes to display a movie from a turned off state.
I know others will disagree, but all players are putting out a reasonable image lately, and if you are using an external receiver, the audio decoding is usually done there as well. A $100 player from Panasonic, LG, Samsung, etc will work about the same. Differences are in the features and load times.