Rough time

[danristheman]

Today has been a very rough day for me today this weekend my mom's health has went dowhill even more now. My mom was taking to hospital today by ambulance symptoms of a stroke. Its not looking good. I metion my situation to some of the satguys members on here. With my living situation in our apartment is bad if I die or move out we lose are home if my mom dies or goes to a nursing home full time we lose are home. So for the past few years her health has gone downhill its been very difficult to try keep our home we have lived there 20 years this year. The apartment management wants us gone really badly and can't wait to get rid of us. So today I have been trying to figure out what I have to do. I take care of my mom best that I can but its tiring we worked together on tuning my dish her sitting on the inside house and me working on the outside of the house.

 

[lost_mesa]

Sorry to hear this.

 

[KE4EST]

Sorry to hear Dan.

 

[primestar31]

Sorry, Dan. My dad just spent the entire month of July in the hospital, and then a physical rehab facility. He just went home this past Sunday.

All you can do is pray, and ask for God's will to be done. It's tough when you feel that you have no control over things like this.

 

[wallyhts]

You will make it Thur this Dan.

 

[N6BY]

Sorry to hear that Dan. You'll find a way. Any relatives willing to help?

...My mom is 91 with Alzheimer's and my dad is 88 with a failing heart. My brother and sister are either unable or unwilling to help. So the entire job is mine. I know its really difficult and painful to see parents decline.

 

[DJdish]

I´m sorry to hear that Dan.
It must be really difficult.

 

[FTA4PA]

Dan, sorry to hear. Hopefully your mom can recover from this. Our thoughts are with both of you.

 

[Titanium]

Dan, sorry to hear about your mom's health and the challenges that are presented with it! Your mom is quite fortunate to have a son like you helping her through these difficult times.

Many things in life happen which don't immediately appear to have a solution or positive outcome. It is often the fear of the unknown that is our biggest obstacle. Right now, you are overwhelmed by the big picture. Continue to be there for her and take it one day at a time.

 

[fred555]

Titanium beat me to it but your Mom is lucky to have a son like you.
It is going to be a one day at a time situation like he said.

Before you know it, Hopefully, Mama Ristheman will be yelling at you to leave those dishes alone,
come on inside and eat your dinner!

 

[Scott Greczkowski]

Stay tough Dan, while you might not understand what's happening yet I am under the belief things happen for a reason. I hope better brighter things come your way.

 

[bobvick]

Sorry to hear about your mothers declining health and your situation. Everything will work itself out in the end. It is hard, but try to keep positive. You and your family will certainly be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[danristheman]

I talked to her at the hospital she sounded little bit better but when they asked her name she can't tell them. The hospital said they couldn't find any thing they did ct scan but found nothing. The hospital said that could be her meds. When she looks at you in the wheelchair stairs at you and your waving your hand in front of her face and she is not moving her eyes its scary. The hospital said they were releasing her in the next few days. She complain about having memory loss.

My sister could care less about us haven't talked to her since 05 my dad haven't seen in 30 years. My aunt and grandma live 3 hours south they are in worse shape also. The members from my mom's church are doing the best to help out. This should called a perfect storm having thrown at you. Thanks for listening to me on this time in my life.

 

[fred555]

Thanks for listening to me on this time in my life.

No problem, we are here for you!

 

[DJdish]

As mentioned in my PM, I will be praying for you and your mom,

 

[primestar31]

Dan, make SURE the hospital does a 'full admittance', and NOT just an "observation" admittance!

They tried that one on my dad, and the difference is for the first one, insurance pays it all. For the second one, they make YOU pay it all out of pocket...

I was flabbergasted to find out this is very, very common. Because of my older sister making a stink at our local hospital when my dad went in last month, they are now reviewing and changing their policies about forcing people to sign releases at admittance that makes them give up their rights to this.

Nobody had ever questioned them before my sister! Can you imagine that, and how many families that were probably financially devastated because of just this one hospital pulling crap like this?

 

[danristheman]

I told them when they admitted her that she has insurance. I said she has medicare and Medicaid I also mentioned that we are not being stuck with the bill instead of sending it to medicaid or medicare. Doctors have been doing that to us for quite a while. So I agree with you prime on the insurance thing.

 

[. Raine]

Sorry to hear this, Dan. Hope things get better.

 

[bobvick]

How old is your mother Dan? Just curious.

 

[danristheman]

She got back from the hospital today still in a terrible amount of pain in her neck. They blamed the meds for this I don't belive in that she missed couple of doses of her meds but she never acted like this. When I described the symptoms to some people all of them said the same thing could be a mini stroke.